*nurses pounding head*

[tiamatlady]

I'm really not happy right now.
I did wake up at 7, but feel back to sleep until almost 8. I called the client, warned him I'd be late (this is after being unable to budge for another half hour) I end up getting there about 9:20. Not too bad, OK an hour late, but after only sleeping 4 hours, pretty damn spiffy.

Then to my local gas station for my overdue inspection. Which it passed. I don't think they did emissions this time, either, tho. From what the dealer told me, an inspection of the muffler would cause me to fail. *shrug* Don't matter now, I have the sticker, it's all set for another year, and I'm planning on replacing the muffler sometime this month, since it IS drooping.

So now I'm home, watching Law & Order, and stealing one of my nephews pizzas, for lunch. I put a whole bunch of cheese on it, so it wasn't half bad (although it was all burned.)

Oh boy, am I running late. I needed a caffine blast, and I think I'm going to fill a water bottle before I leave. i'm feeling decidedly hot and under-watered.

Last night I was talking to A, whom I'm not going to tag with any other names, about relationships. Zir isn't seeing zir's SO all that often, and isn't happy about it. If I end up hooking up with CB, I'll be lucky to see him once a week, outside of the club. I'm content with this, we're BOTH busy, I never wanted to give up the life i have to add an SO to it. If he meshes with me, hey, great. If he doesn't, OK, maybe it might be a problem further down the line (Like if I see him once a month, becuase he's unwilling to change his schedule to see me.) but I'm not willing to make any kind of calls (In fact, I can't, I just understand that this IS a hurdle, and if I can't live with it, I have no business even contemplating things with CB.)

I guess my question is - is that strange? OK I WANT to see him, but hey, we're grown ups with things to do. Am I wrong for accepting restraints on time issues? (This isn't just directed at CB, it's a thought in general.) I don't need to be up his butt. What's "good" get together time? What's too much? How does one evaluate when there's a need for more time?

Comments

[othniel77.livejournal.com]

I think it varies per person.

Some people lean a bit toward co-dependence and need to be practically attached at the hip to be happy; other people (myself, for example) are inexorably independent free-spirit types, who feel truly inconvenienced if the other party in the relationship becomes too demanding on their time.

It's been my experience that relationships that follow the "too much, too soon" pattern tend to fizzle out VERY quickly.

[tiamatlady]

I do understand that each person is different. I don't know if I COULD deal with someone who was co-dependent. I'm too solitary for that, at times. I need to sleep alone, even if i was married with kids, I'd need a room of my own to go "be alone" sometimes.

I guess my real issue is, again, what other people THINK I should want. That if he's not willing to be, to coin my own phrase, "up my butt" that there's something inherently wrong with our relationship. (a proverbial "he" not necessarily CB.)

In the example of CB, I already know that quality is going to be the norm, as opposed to quantity. He's a busy grownup, I'm TRYING to be, and I think any relationship needs compromise while remembering what's important, and keeping one's own self intact.

I just feel "weird" trying to explain that to the co-dependent. maybe I need a different audience *grins*

[naturelevon.livejournal.com]

So, So many thoughts m'dear. Sounds as the witches are definitely stirring the emotional pot (yum!)

Either resolutions shall present themselves 2 U or perhaps U will just have 2 rub your hands together in chaotic glee- & just dive right in...

Hm. Guess some just aren't as compatible (91%!) as others ^_~

Until DragonCon, mizz-
Nature